tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post2532921738850264687..comments2023-10-17T15:30:21.119+01:00Comments on Quite Frankly She Said: Sex, Motherhood & MagazinesSianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12139643044836739933noreply@blogger.comBlogger99125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-31446405717561266752016-09-09T15:42:40.506+01:002016-09-09T15:42:40.506+01:00Such a fabulous post. It is all so true. There is ...Such a fabulous post. It is all so true. There is so much pressure put on new mums in many many ways. Putting pressure on women to have the same sex life and libido as they did before they had children is ludicrous. And the whole "you may be tired, sore and prefer a cuddle but lie back and think of England" is very archaic. Surely any person would prefer there partner to have sex because they want to and not because they feel they have to. Hugs Lucy Lucy Howardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010444596222748813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-28954261004303511962016-09-05T20:00:45.351+01:002016-09-05T20:00:45.351+01:00Magazines, websites, TV...they all put so much pre...Magazines, websites, TV...they all put so much pressure on women to be the perfect, achieve it all mums. What do they say? 'Be a goddess in the kitchen and a slut in the bedroom!' I'm more like mediocre in the kitchen and asleep in the bedroom?! �� x #SundayBestKirsty - Motherhooderyhttp://www.motherhoodery.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-21584449893215149782016-09-05T06:05:47.882+01:002016-09-05T06:05:47.882+01:00Lovely post! I don't buy such magazines any mo...Lovely post! I don't buy such magazines any more, because I have found out they are of little use. I don't need anyone to tell me how to be a good mother and wife. Having a newborn is a difficult period for both partners - your husband still has needs, and you need some time to adapt to your new role in life. This is it. No ruch in anything, things should happen naturally. So dear magazines, fill your pages with more useful tips. :) x #sundaybest Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09750453923530119462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-52220637769494959552016-09-04T22:18:33.057+01:002016-09-04T22:18:33.057+01:00This post is just fantastic! Very well said Sian i...This post is just fantastic! Very well said Sian i agree with every word!! My "baby" is nearly 3 and with taking care of him, looking after the other 2, being a housewife and working... sex is the very last thing on my list!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02397220984297888590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-73874639697697474652016-09-04T15:46:52.577+01:002016-09-04T15:46:52.577+01:00I didn't buy any of the baby mags, but managed...I didn't buy any of the baby mags, but managed to read plenty of the same kind of features in regular mags. (And the baby ones I read in doctors' surgeries etc were full of the same, for all the people who write them seem to disagree!) They always make me so angry - it's like, if he didn't want his sex life to be affected, he should have given it thought before he created a baby... x #sundaybestJessica Powellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17600892373826080305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-62780643004627408502016-09-04T13:12:09.721+01:002016-09-04T13:12:09.721+01:00When I was pregnant with Baba I didn't buy any...When I was pregnant with Baba I didn't buy any magazines of that sort. I didn't want to go over the top. They sell a lot of rubbish if you want my honnest opinion. It's like beauty magazine which do features on relationships. I reckon the people they interviewed are fake! I bet the person who wrote the article you metionned is not even a mum! Towards the end, I just wanted cuddles to be honnest! I was feeling way less sexy! LOL But it's personal. I know that some of my friends wanted more! #SundayBestthe Frenchie Mummyhttps://thefrenchiemummy.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-84586577014569789072016-09-04T12:39:05.703+01:002016-09-04T12:39:05.703+01:00Totally agree...New mums have enough pressie on th...Totally agree...New mums have enough pressie on then without having to be ultra sex bots too! #SundayBestTopsy Turvy Tribehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01082660469376482382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-10678394845204752112016-09-04T12:19:21.685+01:002016-09-04T12:19:21.685+01:00Totally agree, your tired, stressed and I felt a m...Totally agree, your tired, stressed and I felt a mess after. These articles do not help they put pressure that yet again your somehow failing #sundaybest Mud, Cakes and Winehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18120352950387422825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-50835355494717118682016-09-04T10:46:07.686+01:002016-09-04T10:46:07.686+01:00Great post! We waited quite a while after giving b...Great post! We waited quite a while after giving birth because there wasn't time, we we're both exhausted and after a tiny human makes there escape it's not really a priority. <br /><br />#SundayBest Cathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15776308090727738227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-61608660502973053792016-09-04T09:54:15.026+01:002016-09-04T09:54:15.026+01:00Yes! Completely agree with this. Some times I feel...Yes! Completely agree with this. Some times I feel as though those magazines are written by men who don't have a bloody clue! It's literally the last thing on my mind at the moment. xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11972097915521791356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-78932230451940453202016-09-04T09:06:02.895+01:002016-09-04T09:06:02.895+01:00Completely agree - everything changes when you get...Completely agree - everything changes when you get pregnant and enter motherhood. Life can't be expected to be anything like it was before children because that's simply unachievable. #SundayBest<br /><br />Helen x<br /><br />http://www.treasureeverymoment.co.uk/Treasure_E_Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10567732562824036044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-22984283833565427772016-09-04T09:01:41.985+01:002016-09-04T09:01:41.985+01:00So so true!!! I remember in the hospital a doctor ...So so true!!! I remember in the hospital a doctor who looked about 12 started asking me about contraception. I looked at my newborn and said I think he wish contraception enough! And to be honest a year on and I still have little or no sex drive and I do feel guilty about it. I agree that magazines put so much pressure on us #sundaybestAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10293282555628424254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-73593422750098886202016-09-04T08:53:14.290+01:002016-09-04T08:53:14.290+01:00Gosh I don't think mine will ever return and t...Gosh I don't think mine will ever return and that's fine . It's the last thing I think of whilst pregnant and now ! . #sundaybest jessica Harveyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964403475886332940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-81537943002758881872016-06-06T10:51:21.188+01:002016-06-06T10:51:21.188+01:00Haha Well Said!
I stopped reading magazines a lon...Haha Well Said! <br />I stopped reading magazines a long time ago for this reason.<br /><br />Claire<br />http://www.theclairediary.co.ukAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16876180251582071911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-41459855353188661062016-05-14T07:04:12.333+01:002016-05-14T07:04:12.333+01:00This is spot on! It's so annoying. If a man ha...This is spot on! It's so annoying. If a man had a horrific penis accident on a par with childbirth, tears, episiotomy, Caesarian etc, would people be suggesting that his wife has needs & he should be sorting her out?! Unlikely!! 😊 Louise Pink Pear BearAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15181956895900050189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-86377878807403595382016-03-30T21:43:22.616+01:002016-03-30T21:43:22.616+01:00Well, yes but a little simplistic. You have to ke...Well, yes but a little simplistic. You have to keep your relationship going too. I think you can't stop altogether but you do need to learn how to communicate with your partner to come up with something that works for you both. Unfortunately in lots of relationships saying 'no' permanently can be a death knell.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-86094312751888409092016-03-25T22:33:21.192+00:002016-03-25T22:33:21.192+00:00Oh I'm so sorry, what a prize prick he was. I ...Oh I'm so sorry, what a prize prick he was. I hope that you are much better off without him now though?xxSianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12139643044836739933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-31295119261762374222016-02-18T15:50:55.380+00:002016-02-18T15:50:55.380+00:00This. ALL of this. YES. I want every pregnant pers...This. ALL of this. YES. I want every pregnant person and mother to read this. I want every partner to read it. Most of all, I want to send this to my ex-husband who decided that getting it elsewhere when our baby was months old was preferable to surviving without. He's still getting it there, which is ever so nice for him, obviously.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-53017077558726718742016-02-05T18:32:53.297+00:002016-02-05T18:32:53.297+00:00Who are you referring to, Lisa?xWho are you referring to, Lisa?xSianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12139643044836739933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-18296436119981618992016-02-03T13:45:08.548+00:002016-02-03T13:45:08.548+00:00It's also interesting that the people who say ...It's also interesting that the people who say the magazines write such things also say they don't buy magazines, which begs the question, how do they know? xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-56947538441744581782016-01-27T14:16:26.873+00:002016-01-27T14:16:26.873+00:00Thanks for your insights Alison. It's interest...Thanks for your insights Alison. It's interesting that the only readers that say they have never come across such articles are a magazine writer and a magazine art director, yet all the other readers have x Sianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12139643044836739933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-7754444627036299702016-01-25T21:17:10.331+00:002016-01-25T21:17:10.331+00:00I've written for a few parenting magazines and...I've written for a few parenting magazines and even wrote a feature about sex in one mag, a few years ago. I echo the comment above - I've never read a magazine feature which says these, so this post has left me feeling confused. The magazine writers and editors that I've worked with are so so careful to be supportive and put the mother's (or baby's, depending on feature topic) needs first. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16228455001381844476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-31361158682955265772016-01-22T10:00:58.154+00:002016-01-22T10:00:58.154+00:00Ah Katy F, yes it's me who commented on the fb...Ah Katy F, yes it's me who commented on the fb page too. I'm a mother actually and have more understanding than you could possibly imagine. And it's Prima Baby magazine, not Prima, don't want to confuse the two. Lisa xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-8782292613406822912016-01-22T08:38:02.315+00:002016-01-22T08:38:02.315+00:00Ahh Anonymous, probably the same 'I work for P...Ahh Anonymous, probably the same 'I work for Prima' that commented on the FB page too. You probably thought it was a good idea to stand up for your magazine when you wrote all of the comments but sadly all you did was show that you have no respect for other mothers' opinions. Sian does not need to check her facts at it is her opinion and how baby magazines made her feel- it also seems from the FB page that many others feel the same. Now what you should have said was 'I am so sorry to read this, I work at Prima and we do our best to make sure we get balanced views. Hopefully none of our readers have ever felt this way'. But no, instead you stood up for all magazines out there, showing a lack of respect for these mothers and their feelings. I for one hope your editor stumbles across these comments! Katy (What Katy Said)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08995751321872123536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743775917250773115.post-38311656975340142122016-01-21T21:33:50.843+00:002016-01-21T21:33:50.843+00:00Thank you for commenting. It seems that we share t...Thank you for commenting. It seems that we share the same train of thought on this topic - about having a balanced view - so that is surely a good thing? xSianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12139643044836739933noreply@blogger.com